Everyone has heard of the word 'banter'.
Everyone knows someone who regularly describes or excuses their actions by claiming it to be 'banter'.
I can almost guarantee that the people that you - my lovely reader - associate with banter are very much like the people everyone else associates with banter. You all know the type. The perfectly styled and straightened hair, perhaps with a Bieber fringe or a king sized tub of hair gel thrown onto it... the guys whose aftershave you smell far before they approach you, and it gets in your throat and makes you want to vomit as it tickles your gag reflex and fucks with your taste buds.
Even if that is not the description of the person you are thinking of, everyone knows someone who uses the word banter frequently as a way of allowing his or herself to be able to be a twat to everyone.
Harsh never-ending barrages of insults, or highly inappropriate and sick jokes, constant one-upmanship and a complete lack of regard for the consequences of it all.
After reading an article online, I found that a website called Unilad.com, which is a site for uni guys has been shut down temporarily because they were posting a piece that encouraged the raping of women.
"If the girl you've taken for a drink… won't spread for your head, think about this mathematical statistic, 85% of rape cases go unreported. That seems to be fairly good odds."
Now... this is a good example of 'Banter' but the scary part is that there is a huge element of truth in this... 85% of rape cases do go unreported. 85% of women who are raped do not report it. Isn't that terrifying?! The worst part is, it gives guys who could possibly be rapists the chance they need to rape an innocent woman. It's incentive to those more inclined to be rapists to go ahead, as if they have been given permission. Now most good men will know never to rape, and by no means am I accusing all men of being rapists. I'm a liberal feminist, not a radical one.
No, no, not all men are rapists, but endorsing behaviour like this from banter loving 'lads' is not going to truly show the seriousness of this situation, the seriousness being that 85% of cases are not reported. Let's not forget, that's not just women. That's men too. There are lots of cases where men have raped men, and even women have raped men (though many people find this hard to believe, it's very possible, and does happen, and is almost never reported.) and this kind of 'banter' is doing all it can to ensure such things are seen as normal and not a big deal, and more importantly, not wrong.
When they were interviewed about it, some of the 'lads' from the website simply said this:
"Rape only happens because lasses can't handle the banter."
This kind of fucking ridiculous empty headed comment is exactly what i'm talking about. This is the kind of person who makes 'Banter'. This is the kind of person who views rape as socially acceptable. This is the person who probably stands a damn good chance of being a rapist. This is the sort of person who has probably raped and not even realised it was. Thinking that she was too drunk to say yes, but she never said no either.
Rape does not happen because 'lasses' (i hate that word.) can't handle banter. Rape happens because a man forces his dick inside a girl when she does not want him to. Rape happens when a girl says no, and he does it anyway. Rape happens when a girl is passed out or drunk and taken advantage of because she can't stop it. Rape happens because rapists rape. Not because girls can't deal with a rape joke.
There is a large difference between raping, and talking about it.
If a girl went along with rape banter, would that make her less likely to be raped by one of the guys. No, if anything, that would make her seem more accepting of rape. That would make her even more of a target because she wouldn't report it because she appears to accept it.
And if she disagrees with rape banter (rightfully so...) then... so because she has her own opinions, because she finds offensive jokes offensive... suddenly that means she is asking to be raped? What sort of fucked up person would even make such a stupid connection. Let's face the facts here, the unsatisfied, self-loathing piece of shit that said it was probably a stupid cunt anyway. He's definitely single. And if he's got a girlfriend, I hope she likes rape because regardless of her views on it, she's getting one anyway.
Another thing said, after the apology was made was this:
"[This apology is] Proof women don't understand freedom of speech and banter," added Andy.
Well... Andy. This apology proves nothing about that. This apology is proof that rape shouldn't be taken as a joke. This apology does not prove that women want to spoil men's fun. It proves that women- and a whole fucking lot of decent, right minded men- don't want rape to happen, and they don't want it to be acceptable to endorse it.
Banter is a word used, when something offensive is said.
Have you ever heard something horrific being said, followed by "It's only banter." or something along those lines?
Yes, banter is the word you want to use when you want to excuse yourself from being a cunt.
But the fact is, in my mind at least, the word banter basically means "i'm a cunt." so even by using it, you still look like a cunt.
I am lucky enough in my life to know very few 'banterers.' and i hope my life remains that way until banter is bashed into the ground for good. I am glad that I know so few, but that does not unfortunately detract from the people I have had the misfortune to come into contact with who often enjoy the use of the word banter.
I would like to think that after a while, it will die out, it will become simply so offensive that anyone making such ridiculous jokes and points of 'comedy' will simply be ostracised for being a twatty shitface that everyone hates.
I truly respect any man who has been around this much banter and not stooped to it's level of imbecility and ignorant cuntishness.
And that ladies and gentleman, is what I have to say about Banter.